Comments on: Housekeeping http://www.girldetective.net/?p=978 Reading, Writing, Movies and Mothering in Minneapolis, Mostly Fri, 15 May 2026 11:45:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: girldetective http://www.girldetective.net/?p=978&cpage=1#comment-8842 girldetective Wed, 11 Jul 2007 20:16:06 +0000 http://www.girldetective.net/?p=978#comment-8842 Thalia, how irritating of you to quote myself back to me. But I have to grudgingly admit that you, and past me, are right: guilt is rather silly. Instead, I should try to appreciate how, like Kate, I'm helping myself and someone else. And I'll use Elle as the certainty that I'd get over my guilt eventually, so I might as well get over it now! Thalia, how irritating of you to quote myself back to me. But I have to grudgingly admit that you, and past me, are right: guilt is rather silly. Instead, I should try to appreciate how, like Kate, I’m helping myself and someone else. And I’ll use Elle as the certainty that I’d get over my guilt eventually, so I might as well get over it now!

]]> By: Kate http://www.girldetective.net/?p=978&cpage=1#comment-8816 Kate Tue, 03 Jul 2007 18:44:39 +0000 http://www.girldetective.net/?p=978#comment-8816 I love having the house cleaned--and there's no way I'm spending time on that, even with the one kid. I know we shouldn't live in filth, but there just seems to be better ways to spend our time together than dusting. And simply cleaning doesn't include everything else you mention--laundry, organizing, picking up clutter--which takes up too much time as it is. I also feel like, in my state's current economy, I'm helping to employ (through a reputable service) two of women who would otherwise be on the edge of having a job. In other words, until I'm like my dad (retired with both kids out of the house), I'm hoping to have someone else do the cleaning. I love having the house cleaned–and there’s no way I’m spending time on that, even with the one kid. I know we shouldn’t live in filth, but there just seems to be better ways to spend our time together than dusting. And simply cleaning doesn’t include everything else you mention–laundry, organizing, picking up clutter–which takes up too much time as it is.

I also feel like, in my state’s current economy, I’m helping to employ (through a reputable service) two of women who would otherwise be on the edge of having a job.

In other words, until I’m like my dad (retired with both kids out of the house), I’m hoping to have someone else do the cleaning.

]]> By: elle http://www.girldetective.net/?p=978&cpage=1#comment-8815 elle Tue, 03 Jul 2007 17:11:31 +0000 http://www.girldetective.net/?p=978#comment-8815 My husband pressured me FOR YEARS to get some cleaning help when I had 4 children under the age of 5. I finally gave in, and scheduled my housekeepers to come every two weeks soley to clean my 5 bathrooms (I didn't design the house, I just bought it, and who needs 5 bathrooms anyway?). It was WONDERFUL to have them all clean on the same day. I too get mired down with stuff while trying to clean, even when I try to clean the bathrooms. I have gotten past the guilt finally (5 years later), and just appreciate it for what it is (making my life so much easier). All 4 kids will be in school full time in Sept, and there's no way I'm canceling my cleaning ladies!!!! My husband pressured me FOR YEARS to get some cleaning help when I had 4 children under the age of 5. I finally gave in, and scheduled my housekeepers to come every two weeks soley to clean my 5 bathrooms (I didn’t design the house, I just bought it, and who needs 5 bathrooms anyway?). It was WONDERFUL to have them all clean on the same day. I too get mired down with stuff while trying to clean, even when I try to clean the bathrooms. I have gotten past the guilt finally (5 years later), and just appreciate it for what it is (making my life so much easier). All 4 kids will be in school full time in Sept, and there’s no way I’m canceling my cleaning ladies!!!!

]]> By: thalia http://www.girldetective.net/?p=978&cpage=1#comment-8814 thalia Tue, 03 Jul 2007 16:31:08 +0000 http://www.girldetective.net/?p=978#comment-8814 I'm so glad you've given up feeling guilty, it's such a waste of time. Some wise woman once said to me, don't waste time feeling bad about things you already feel bad about. So I'll say it back to you now. I'm delighted you have a cleaner, long may it continue. I’m so glad you’ve given up feeling guilty, it’s such a waste of time. Some wise woman once said to me, don’t waste time feeling bad about things you already feel bad about. So I’ll say it back to you now. I’m delighted you have a cleaner, long may it continue.

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